Battle Your Feelings Of Insecurity With The Facts Of Your Identity In Christ



14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. 15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. 16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: (Romans 8:14–16)


This text is a key text in the battle against insecurity in our lives. We’ll come back to it in awhile. First, let’s clarify what is meant by insecurity. The insecurity we’ll be talking about is the fear of being rejected or disapproved of by others, of having a lack of self-confidence, of thinking yourself to be inferior. 


• Raise your hand if you have ever struggled with feelings of insecurity.

• Raise your hand if you’re feeling too insecure to raise your hand.


What does an insecure person look like? In some regards, it can be confusing. An insecure person might be loud and bold, or quiet and shy. They might be a person who is always doing daring things, or a person who never takes risks. They might be a person who constantly seeks attention, or a person who tries not to get any attention. They might be a person who constantly talks or a person who doesn’t say much.


Insecurity is a form of fear and has a lot to do with how a person perceives how they look to other people. They have a lack of confidence about themselves. They care too much about what others think about them.




Many of the people found in the Bible dealt with insecurity. You can think of Moses when he was called by God. Peter, for all his outspokenness, was an insecure man. Abraham struggled with it, as did his grandson Jacob.


One of the most striking cases of insecurity in the Bible, I think, is King Saul. If you think that because you are physically well-built, in a position of success and power, and looked up to by many, that you couldn’t possibly be insecure, then this man is the deal-breaker for you. Turn to 1 Samuel 9—


1 Now there was a man of Benjamin, whose name was Kish, the son of Abiel, the son of Zeror, the son of Bechorath, the son of Aphiah, a Benjamite, a mighty man of power. 2 And he had a son, whose name was Saul, a choice young man, and a goodly: and there was not among the children of Israel a goodlier person than he: from his shoulders and upward he was higher than any of the people. (1 Samuel 9:1–2)


Saul came from a good family and he is described as a well-built man—“a choice young man.” No one would have dared call him insecure.


Saul’s insecurity is revealed after David kills Goliath, causing David to become instantly popular in Israel:


6 And it came to pass as they came, when David was returned from the slaughter of the Philistine, that the women came out of all cities of Israel, singing and dancing, to meet king Saul, with tabrets, with joy, and with instruments of musick. 7 And the women answered one another as they played, and said, Saul hath slain his thousands, And David his ten thousands. (1 Samuel 18:6–7)


Saul became very jealous because of David’s fame. Jealously is an emotion that is associated with insecurity.


8 And Saul was very wroth, and the saying displeased him; and he said, They have ascribed unto David ten thousands, and to me they have ascribed but thousands: and what can he have more but the kingdom? 9 And Saul eyed David from that day and forward. 10 And it came to pass on the morrow, that the evil spirit from God came upon Saul, and he prophesied in the midst of the house: and David played with his hand, as at other times: and there was a javelin in Saul’s hand. 11 And Saul cast the javelin; for he said, I will smite David even to the wall with it. And David avoided out of his presence twice. 12 And Saul was afraid of David, because the Lord was with him, and was departed from Saul. (1 Samuel 18:8–12)


Here’s a quick side note: What is this “evil spirit from God” that “came upon Saul”? In 1 Samuel 16:14, God’s Holy Spirit left Saul because of Saul’s disobedience and an “evil spirit from the Lord troubled him.” Saul is under discipline from the Lord. 


Is this an evil spirit directly from the Lord? No, obviously not. I think that, when the Holy Spirit left Saul, that made him open to an evil spirit to come in. It’s called “the evil spirit from the Lord” to indicate that the Lord allowed it for the purposes of disciplining Saul.


Notice how Saul was “afraid of David.” Insecurity is a form of fear. It’s a fear of rejection by others, a fear of losing something, like your position or power. 


Why was Saul angry, afraid, and insecure? Because of David’s popularity. Saul says, “what can he have more but the kingdom?” In 1 Samuel 20:31, we discover that Saul was concerned about David taking the kingdom away from his son. 


And it’s not that David did anything to provoke Saul’s jealous insecurity. David himself behaved in a wise and godly manner. But, we learn in 1 Samuel 18:15—


15 Wherefore when Saul saw that [David] behaved himself very wisely, he was afraid of him. (1 Samuel 18:15)


David would always treat Saul with respect. Despite this, throughout the next several years, Saul would try and kill David time and time again.


Saul’s story tells us several lessons about insecurity:


(1) Being handsome, popular, and powerful does not guarantee you won’t be insecure. In fact, many bold and even arrogant people are actually insecure. They look good on the outside, but you scratch them and just below the surface they are a bundle of insecurities. 


Do you pursue good looks, popularity, money, etc. in order to fight your insecurity? It won’t work you will still be insecure!


(2) David did not cause Saul’s insecurity…he revealed it. Insecurity in a person is not primarily the fault of people or circumstances. Those things only reveal a problem within the person, they do not cause it. Getting rid of the perceived cause of the insecurity will not eliminate the insecurity—it will come up again when a new person or circumstance reveals it. 


Even if Saul had managed to kill David, he would have still been insecure. He might have gone after his popular son, Jonathan, instead.


(3) There’s going to be sin involved in insecurity. In our therapy-minded culture, we want to say that insecurity is a problem, yes, but it’s not sin. This is not what the Bible indicates. Insecurity is a lack of faith and confidence in God. Before 1 Samuel 15, Saul had sought God’s counsel and trusted the Lord. After chapter 15, Saul began to trust in himself and not in God. That makes insecurity a sin, or acting out of sin.


Examine your heart for sins that might be causing your insecurity or coming out of your insecurity. Confess them to God and then repent and turn from them.




We are all insecure or, more accurately, prone to be insecure in certain areas of our lives. Push the right buttons, and we can instantly be insecure. We will crave approval and attention from others to the degree that we act out in unhealthy ways. We will worry to the degree we don’t sleep at night. We will do things or don’t do things based on what others will think of us. We will obsess over our clothes and looks. 


Is there something obsessive that you do? Trace it back and you’ll probably find it has to do with insecurity.


How do we fight insecurity? Since insecurity comes from a flawed view of ourselves, as Christians, we need to build a correct view of who we are in Christ. Church, do you know who you are in Christ? Have you appropriated that into your daily living? Let’s look at several facts of being in Christ and what that means for us.  First, as a Christian…


You Are Justified


Have you failed…again…and you think that no one could like you? That you can never do anything right? Go back to the gospel. Christian, you need to preach the gospel to yourself again! The gospel says…


1 Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ: (Romans 5:1)


What does it mean to be justified? It’s like this: Jesus lived a perfect life and then he died for our sins on the cross. When we trust in Jesus to be our Savior, our sins are forgiven because they are charged to Christ. What’s more, Christ’s life of perfect obedience is given to us. So you can say that “justified” means “just as if I never sinned” and it also means “just as if I always obeyed.” 


So when you feel that you are too bad of a person to be loved, you need to preach the gospel of justification back to yourself. Instead of wallowing in self-pity and insecurity, you need to say to yourself, “Self, you have been justified by faith. In God’s eyes, you have never sinned. In God’s eyes, you have always obeyed.”


Confess your sin, repent of it, and then believe that God sees you as perfect as he sees his Son, Jesus Christ.


You Are Adopted


Do you feel like no one cares about you? That you have been left out? Then remember, as a Christian, you have been adopted by God.


14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. 15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. 16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: (Romans 8:14–16)


Of the many things that this means, adoption means that a Christian is part of God’s family. You’ve been accepted.


Let’s go back to justification for a moment. Perhaps justification can be illustrated in part by a governor who pardons a convicted criminal. The man becomes just as if he never sinned (Remember though, God goes one step further and makes it just as if you’ve always obeyed). 


Adoption takes the illustration to the next level. Not only does the governor pardon the criminal, he also brings him into his family. Justification is legal. Adoption is personal.


When a Christian feels like no one cares about them, we need to remember who we belong to. The Sovereign Creator, Redeemer, and Ruler of the entire universe has adopted you as his child. If he accepts you, then what does it really matter what Joe and Jane think of you? They aren’t anything in comparison to the One who loves you as his child!


You Are Sufficient


Do you feel that you are weak, unskilled, incapable of doing anything significant? That may very well be the truth, but it’s not a life-ending truth (Our culture likes to say that you can do anything, just believe in yourself). As a matter of fact, it’s the weak and powerless person that the Lord loves to use for his glory:


27 But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty…30 But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption: 31 That, according as it is written, He that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord. (1 Corinthians 1:27–31)


The apostle Paul’s testimony is also relevant here:


9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong. (2 Corinthians 12:9–10)


Now, I don’t mean by this that whatever you imagine, God will help you do. God’s not your genie. But as you faithfully serve Christ in your church and in your community,  God will make you sufficient for whatever he calls you to do for Christ’s sake. The key is that you are his servant, serving for him for his glory.


You Are Valued


Do you feel unimportant? Do you think—perhaps rightly, perhaps wrongly—that people don’t care about you the way you think that they should? 


Every member of Christ’s body is valued. Jesus said that God has the hairs of your head numbered, such is his care for you (Matthew 10:30). Each Christian is assigned a unique and necessary place in Christ’s body—


18 But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him. (1 Corinthians 12:18)


Remember that you are part of Christ’s body and God has put you in a position to serve him. Believe that God doesn’t make a mistake. You need to focus on what he has you to do for him…if you are doing that, no one can tell you that you are unimportant. Well, they can, but who should you listen to—them or God? 




I don’t mean that this will be simple or easy. Dealing with our emotions is hard work. But this is foundational stuff here. Who are you in Christ? You must work that into your heart. 


The root cause of insecurity is too much focus on ourselves. We make ourselves out to be the victim. Jerry Bridges talks about a woman with a broken marriage who said to her friend, “I am just a failure.” 


The friend responded, “No, you are not a failure.” Many of us would say something like that, right? Build the person up. Bolster their self-esteem. That’s what we’re supposed to say. Wrong. Bridges went on to say—


But that is always a futile effort, an exercise in misplaced compassion. You can’t deny reality, and the fact was that this woman had failed in her marriage. But there was another, greater reality. Because this woman is a believer, the greater reality was and is that, as one in Christ, she stands holy and blameless before God (Ephesians 1:4). That is why I wish [her] friend had said something like, “You are right. You are a failure, and so am I. But that’s why Jesus came. He came to die for failures like you and me. Because of Jesus, our failures no longer define who we truly are.” (Jerry Bridges. Who Am I? Identity in Christ. Cruciform Press, 2012.)


You need to understand what it means to be in Jesus Christ. Don’t just think about that in a general way. Get specific, look up and pray over Bible verses that describe who you are in Christ—justified, adopted, sufficient, and valued, and more. As you do this, your insecurity will begin to be shoved out the back door.


There is one life situation where we should feel insecure—if we have not trusted in Christ for the forgiveness of our sins. As mortal human beings, we spend every moment hanging over the cliff of eternity. At any moment the rope holding us could fail and we’ll drop into the great chasm of death.


14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. (James 4:14)


Are you prepared for that day? I know a lot of people think they are, so let me be more specific: are you prepared to meet God? There is only one way to be prepared to meet God and that is through his Son, Jesus Christ.


First, recognize how insecure you are as a sinner. You cannot waltz into the throne room of God and expect to defend yourself. You are already condemned. All what is left is the carrying out of the sentence: eternal death in Hell.


Second, recognize that Jesus Christ has already paid that penalty for you. All you need to do is to place your life, your trust, your confidence entirely in his hands. Then your eternity will be secure. Your rope will break someday, but you will fall right into the arms of Jesus:


27 My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: 28 And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand. (John 10:27–28)


Now that is real security!


Levi Durfey


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